Sometimes Wisdom Smacks You in the Face

On these Monday posts I like to try to put things in that are crafted bits of wisdom that require us to mentally chew on them to get the effect. But this one below is simply good truth from an oft told but reliably true story. Get ready for a soul adjustment.

An eminent and well-known English preacher was approached by a congregation member who complained about some aspect of church life. It may have been that he didn't feel welcomed, or that he was finding it hard to make friends and fit in; it could have been that he was finding the service dissatisfying or the preaching too long; it could have been that the music was not to his taste or that his family was not being catered for to his satisfaction. The details of the complaint have been lost in the telling and re-telling of the story.



The preacher listened to the complaint, paused, and then replied with five words that cut straight to the heart of not only the man's problem, but the problem with all grumbling and complaining in church. He simply said, “It's not about you, stupid!” and walked off.


It was a stunningly rude response—the kind that this preacher seemed uniquely capable of getting away with in his very English way. But doesn't it exactly express what is wrong with grumbling and complaining in church?



It really is the height of idiocy to think that church is about me and my needs and my family and my satisfaction. It completely overturns the teaching of the Bible—that church is about God and Christ and loving other people. In fact, if we wanted to summarize Paul's rebuke to the dysfunctional Corinthian church in 1 Corinthians 11-14, a pretty reasonable slogan would be “It's not about you, stupid!”.

Guess what? Pastors grumble about church too – and we actually create and oversee the things we complain about! So this is great advice the next time I’m looking at a week full of meetings or an inbox full of emails. Or anytime I’m tempted to complain.

“It’s not about you, stupid!

Full credit for where I found this is in Tony Payne’s blog ‘The Sola Panel”. Here’s his full blog: The five-word antidote to grumbling